by
juliettevia
It’s not lost on
me that one such episode on white privilege the family discuss the meaning and
impact of the quote “Prejudice is the emotional commitment to
ignorance.”
You can’t counsel yourself into belonging.
You can’t learn belonging any more than you can learn to be a
peacock. You may learn enough to hang out with peacocks without alarming
them but try to fly and you’ll know you’re not peacocky enough pretty
quickly. Just so with the iceberg of culture. A myriad of secret
handshakes lie beneath, unspoken tests and initiations sit between
ourselves and others.
Belonging is at the heart of identity.
Those who think it’s enough to decide who you are independently of
others beliefs, are underestimating the role that being seen plays in
our identity. Self-acceptance in our identity is a small, sometimes
inconsequential island, validation of our identity is a continent. For
transracial adoptees there can be a lot of sea between our island and
that continent.
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