PART SIX: Victims of Adoptions and Lies: Identification (reposting)

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Part 6: IDENTIFICATION

By Trace A. DeMeyer Trace Hentz

I woke up with two thoughts: there are two victims of adoption who need help and not necessarily from each other: the adoptee and the first mother. Each has its own burden and neither can heal the other.

My mind has been so focused on the new anthology Two Worlds, I apologize for my absence on this blog. It's not that I haven't been paying attention to comments and planning new interviews and posts.

There is no shortage of news and concerns on the topic of adoption.  One biggie is identification!

A recent comment on this blog was about possible deportation of a woman who was adopted at 4 months old in France by a military family and the adoptees' daughter is now very concerned that her mother can't produce adoption documents - made worse since her adoptive parents are now deceased and unable to tell her anything.

Who would have thought a 53-year-old woman adopted by Americans and raised here in America would have to worry about this?  Mother and daughter have a right to be concerned.  With documents and birth certificates and identification cards becoming the focus of elections, getting passports and drivers licenses, and after hearing so much about illegal immigration, we should ALL be concerned.

Adoptee and Adoptive Parents:  I've posted about this numerous times on this blog.  Adoptees are given a fraudulent birth certificate and we adoptees have to live our lives under these very scary consequences.

There is a governmental solution: GIVE US OUR BIRTH RECORDS - give us the real papers!

In the new anthology I wrote a piece, DWI: Driving While Indian, click here to read an earlier version on this blog.  It's about adoptees who have been deported for having fake birth documents!

I told the commenter she needs to take her mother to their state representative or local senator armed with as much information as she could find about this and explain her dilemma. I said it could take months for a resolution. Documents have to exist - if you are born, there is a record. But "adoption" changes our records. Why? To benefit and satisfy the adoptive parents. 

My adoptee friend VON made it clear on her recent blog that adoption is far from perfect!

"...In some ways adoption practice is worse than it has ever been because it is based on even more fraudulent information than it ever was – the plight of transnational adoptees who are viewed as ‘orphans’ but are not; the deception of mothers who are led to believe they are giving the greatest gift of all in giving their baby for adoption; the attitude of young women to adoption, encouraged by the industry, the media and the lack of connect with what they are doing and the outcomes for the child; the idea that adoption is beautiful; the views that open adoption makes it all o.k. and so on. Since adoption practice gives the illusion of getting better but gets worse, you’d have to wonder "where to next?..."
Read it here: http://eagoodlife.wordpress.com/2012/10/13/naming/ 

My point here is, there are real consequences for adoptees who live in America with fake documents that may or may not show YOUR actual birthplace and birthdate. You're living a lie on paper.  Today, ADOPTEES have to "get real" on paper and fast.

TAGS: DEPORTING ADOPTEES, RACIAL IDENTIFICATION, VISIT YOUR SENATOR OR STATE REP ABOUT FAKE BIRTH RECORDS

READ THIS: 2010 news story from Colorado:  http://www.boulderweekly.com/article-3990-judge-orders-woman-a.html

Deportation Cases:  http://poundpuplegacy.org/deportation_cases

Earlier posts can be found in the 2012 archive on this blog. I am posting the links tomorrow to the six-part series on this topic...Trace