IF... repost from Von

If………. by eagoodlife So tell me, if adoption is so wonderful and beautiful - Why don't adoptees have equal rights? Why so much adopter angst and justification? Why do we cost so much? Why do people fight over us? Why do open adoptions close? Why can't we know our full stories like everyone else does? Why do we need the UN to focus on us specifically? Why are we marketed? Why do adopters go to jail for abusing and killing us? Why do attorneys and others go to jail over it? Why do we still suffer stigma, racism and adoptism? Why is there so much argument over us, about us and with us? Why has consensus not been reached? Why aren't all mothers happy, content and pleased about the future they gave us/are giving us? Why in Australia will the Federal and all State Governments be apologising for adoption? Why do organisations exist to research, oppose and educate about adoption? Why are so many books written, films made and blogs written about adoption by adoptees? Why are so many making money from something others see as 'a gift'? Why does adoption involve lies, scams, deception, illusion, omissions and secrets? Why does adoption break-down and adoptees are returned, sent back or re-homed? Why are the figures for domestic and transnational adoption falling steadily? Why are adoption agencies going out of business or being prosecuted? Why do professionals describe such things as 'the mask of adoption', 'adoption syndrome' and so on? Why do research figures show such a high rate of psychological difficulties for adoptees? A recent adoptee conducted survey indicated nearly 90% of adoptees at some time suffer anxiety and depression! Why the continuous hard-sell? Why specialist therapies, interventions and practitioners? Why so many non-adoptees unable to cope with the views of adult adoptees on adoption? Why so many myths, lies and deceptions about adoption? Why is so much money needed, so many bribes and sweeteners? Why are so few adoptees pandering to the market with books, training etc ? A couple of interesting links packed with information and differing views on adoption's beauty, relevance and integrity in case you haven't seen them - coming-out-from-ones-own-ignorance-is-considered-radical/ stigmas-about-adoption-remain-and-hurt-families I had to share this blog post from my adoptee friend Von who is in Australia - add your own IF question in the comments section... Trace